Make new mistakes

During my 20s (okay fine… and most of my 30s 🙄) I was stuck on repeat: drinking too much, worrying way too hard about what people thought, and shrinking myself so everyone else could feel comfy. I was making the same mistakes over and over…but without learning much.

Now in my 40s, I realize how this staying small was rooted in fear of failure. I was terrified of messing up. I wasn’t taking risks, which also meant… no rewards. I kept myself small so I could “fit in,” when deep down I knew I was built to expand, to live bigger than the daily grind hamster wheel.

Am I “there” yet…certainly not. But at least I’m in the game. My new equation goes like this: more mistakes = more experience = more growth. (Yes, I just turned mistakes into math, and no, math was never my thing. Don’t check my work, just trust me.)

So what does that look like? I’m hosting my first yoga retreat in March 2026. I’m planning on living abroad for a month each winter. I’m writing more, investing in a business coach, and putting actual money and energy into me and my wellness business. I know that the future mistakes will turn into bonfires that will light the path for my own growth and help me guide others. And that feels hella good.

I want a life that is more than waiting in a carpool line for kids to be done school. I want to do more than make laps around the beltway hustling to teach a dozen yoga classes but not have the income to show for that hustle. And so this means I have to do new things, I have to make new mistakes.

Finding new ways to make mistakes (aka learning!) ultimately comes down to being curious. And curiosity (Hi, I'm a Gemini) is my #1 value (#2 is humor, #3 is authenticity, in case you're wondering.) In getting curious I am giving myself permission to make mistakes. Giving myself permission to mess up means I’m moving forward in the direction of my dreams, not standing still.

So cheers to creative failures, spicy lessons, and plenty of “growth moments.” I can’t wait to share the messy magic with you.